Marriage is serious business. It is best not to go into it blindly. Spending time as a married couple can help you to notice quirky traits, passions, and annoying behaviors that you didn’t see when you were engaged. You should be ready to ask questions and be ready for any answer you might receive from him. Don’t push him to the limit if he isn’t comfortable, but ask questions in a casual tone.
These questions may not be asked in a particular order but can help you to plan your future together.
- Are there any issues that you are still trying to resolve from past relationships?
It is difficult to share intimate details from past relationships. Your relationship is mature enough for you to talk about issues such as this because you are embarking on a lifetime journey.
- How many children would your ideal family have?
What number of children do they desire? Are they open to having children? Are they clear about how they want to raise their children? Are there differences in your opinions? You will have to agree on how to raise your children, from television rules to bedtime discipline.
- Is it a deal-breaker that you are unable to have children?
Deal breakers are areas where you can’t compromise in a relationship. Having children is one of the reasons for broken marriages.
- Are there any significant medical conditions in your family that could impact you and/or your children?
An individual’s family medical history can help identify individuals who are more likely to have common conditions such as stroke, heart disease, high blood pressure, stroke, or certain cancers. A relative with a condition does not guarantee that the individual will develop it. It is a good idea to be informed in order to be safe.
- Do you have any thoughts on sharing chores with our family?
Is he more comfortable with it being 50/50? This is what I refer to as the daily details. Even tasks around the house like who pays the bills and cooks the meals.
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- What are your financial goals for your family?
Discuss how you plan to save, invest, spend, save, gift, and give money if you are married. To avoid suffering from extreme stress, get help if you find that either one of you has a poor budget or bad money management habits.
- What do you think we will look like in 10 years?
This question can be a helpful tool for couples to deal with their current conflicts and work towards their ultimate goals. It could also serve as an opportunity to ask if each partner will consider divorcing if the relationship becomes strained.
- Are you a strong believer in religious values and beliefs? If yes, why?
Your upbringing and background can have a profound impact on your character and values. Your values and beliefs will be reflected in your actions.
- Do you believe we should make time for romance and fun in our relationships?
It is important to put forth the same effort as when you first fell in love. Are you willing to take on the challenge of doing something outside your comfort zone to keep the romance alive?
- Agreement on s*x
Both you and your partner should talk about how you want your sex life to be. You can also discuss with your partner any aspects of your sex life that you are uncomfortable with.
Although this is not a comprehensive list, it is a good starting point.
